Monday, May 9, 2016

Gold Stars for...Everyone?

Let's face it...we are living in a time where every parent thinks their kid deserves to win a trophy or make the team regardless of if they ever put in the time and effort.

As a parent who has a child who works her tail off to better herself and pushes herself to advance and improve, parents the like above mentioned make me angry.

Oh sure, there are "supposed" to be skill requirements, but in reality, the enforcement of those requirements are purely up to the people in charge. When you require only certain people to meet those requirements and not others, you "cheapen" the efforts of those kids who practice their tails off at home or elsewhere. 

And don't think for a second these kids don't see what is going on! 

Those kids whose efforts are cheapened end up disappointed, let down, and wary of the integrity of the people in charge. Those kids who get what they want regardless of the effort they put in end up growing up thinking everything is owed to them and they deserve it simply for being on the earth.

There is an entire generation of twenty-something loafers out there who think they deserve exactly what the hard-working people get and its only getting worse with each new generation. 

*Enter the younger version of Bernie Sanders*

I get it...I get that we want our kids to have fun and be included. Sure, every child needs to be acknowledged for trying out and for whatever effort they put in with a participation award or participation ribbon, but to give every child a gold star or a trophy or a spot on the team simply for showing up? That's just sad...




So, go ahead, keep your gold stars, just don't ask me where I'd like you to stick them.




Monday, March 21, 2016

3rd time is NOT the charm...

So, we put an offer on yet another home. This made the 3rd offer since last October.

It was one we had seen several months ago...pretty, needed some updating here and there, but had everything we wanted, including waaay more room than we ever set out to ever look for....but it was waaay out of our price range. Well, fast forward a few months and the home has been on the market almost a year and the sellers lowered the price by quite a substantial amount which put the home IN our price range.

So, we went out to look at it. Prayed about it for a few weeks, then went to see it again. We decided to make an offer. We offered $10,000 less than the asking price. We figured that was reasonable considering it had been on the market almost a year and it would leave some bargaining ground.

So, what was the outcome, you might ask? The seller wanted $20,000 MORE than the asking price. Is that insane or what?!?! 

Sad part is, I think the seller actually EXPECTS people to come in and offer waaay more than the asking price as if it's a normal thing and WE are the crazy one's for not doing it. 

Um....no thanks. We'll pass.

Now, we are back where we started...again.

I know God has called us to foster. I know we need a 4th bedroom if we want to foster sibling groups. I just need to trust that things will work out. I don't need to get bogged down in the details of it all. We still have time an our timing may not always be God's timing. So, we are continuing to move forward with foster classes. If we don't have a home with an extra bedroom by the time we are finished, God will show us what we need to do.

Who knows...maybe our future home will pop on the market in the nick of time or maybe God will change our thinking about something...all we can do is trust....